Holding people responsible and accountable for honesty is an important aspect in coaching. Coaching is often about helping people in the process when looking at these parts of themselves or others where it is hard to be honest with one another or with oneself. I have seen an immense courage from my clients to unveil the curtain of dishonesty, denial, lies and face the truth.
Only then we can go beyond and realise that reality has so many facets. Being honest means being vulnerable and compassionate. Honesty means admitting to ourselves that lying comes from fear, disappointments and betrayals. Lies in fact are used to protect ourself from pain. Since moving away from pain is a strong motivator, it is important to realise that lying can become a strategy to not feel the pain. When we experience a painful event like losing a job, relationship, financial security, or our health, we rarely give ourselves enough time to process the hard lessons (truth), rather we urge ourself to get on with life. Taking time to really understand our motivations can help to live a life which is more aligned with who we truly are.
Use your past experience to strive and to become the person you truly desire, at the same time be aware that this is an intention and not reality at the present time, set your intention realistically or use New Year Resolutions to get a clear picture of your aspirations.
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