I have a strong belief that criticism more often than not has a very negative effect on people. It is only seldom that criticism serves any higher good, nor does it lead to personal growth. More often than not, criticism is a way of asserting power and social control.
The person criticizing often does so from a position of having their value or self-esteem feeling threatened.
Criticism is about "being right," versus the other person "being wrong," a case and story is built that makes the perspective of the person criticizing "true" and the other person's perspective "faulty."
Reflect on this and ask yourself the question "what is my motivation to criticize others?"
Below are possible reasons why we criticize others:
Admit it; you are not innocent when it comes to criticizing others. Just like you take it unfairly, you also probably give it unfairly.
The brain is naturally judgmental because it wants to take the easy way out and it takes a lot more mental energy to try to understand someone, than to simply judge them by what we see on the surface.
When you make judgments on other people, cultures, or ideas; you train the brain to become just as judgmental on yourself. You begin criticizing yourself for what you dislike in others. So for your own well being, reduces judging other to the minimum.
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